When it comes to politics, my experience with those on the left has never been great. Not long ago, many wanted me dead (literally), and said so, simply because of my political beliefs. Others have ‘unfriended’ me because we disagreed on something. Last year, I even went to an NDP event in hopes of coming away with some understanding of their point of view. While trying to find at least a sliver of common ground to build a bridge upon, the person sitting next to me made it clear the bridge was out.
‘Should we stay or should we go?’ is a very polarizing question that should be non-partizan. In November a gentleman who feels the same invited me to discuss it at a public forum and it was a lot of fun! And I really mean that. He asked if I would consider doing it again and, of course, I said yes. A semi-retired Unitarian minister who helped with the Forever Canada campaign was willing to represent the ‘stay’ side, and the event was booked.
With no idea how many would attend, it was hard not to think I could be walking into the Lion’s Den. A lot of prayer went into this event and not just mine. As I walked in the door, nervousness was replaced with peace and some friendly familiar faces. It was a quaint gathering of around 25-30 of us at the Ukrainian Centre on 97st. The speakers would each have thirty minutes to state their case, followed by Q&A with the audience, and five minutes for closing remarks.
If the thoughts and ideologies shared by the Unitarian minister reflect all involved in the Forever Canada campaign, I learned a lot about how they perceive us. It quickly became a left verses right issue, peppered with disparaging remarks about our Premier and Conservatives in general. Sadly, not unexpected.
Though my political leanings are well known, I keep my presentation to facts. Taking the audience on a short journey through our history followed by current headlines, the intention is to help people see where we are and how we got here. Within the headline portion we see that our prisons are filling up with non-Canadians, human trafficking is out of control, and cultural uprisings are a real problem. Very unapologetically, I say to every audience before me that those who come to Canada and then hurt us need to go home. A woman sitting in the front row was visibly troubled during this part of the presentation and I wondered why. From what or whose angle was she seeing this? During the question-and-answer portion I found out.
Filled with emotion and angst toward me, “Do you know how MAGA, ultra-right-wing, racist, Nigel Farag-like you sound telling these people to go home??” She was upset and went on for a few minutes more. Then it was my turn to respond.
Me: “Do you lock your doors?”
Her: “Of course.”
Me: “Would you be upset if someone broke in, wrecked your house, stole from you, and hurt your family?”
Her: “Of course, but we invited these people in to become part of our social fabric and have a better life here. We need to welcome them….” and she continued to expand on that thought for another minute or so.
Me: “Okay. If you invite someone into your home, feed them, give them a place to sleep, shelter, etc., and then they ransack it, hurt your kids, and take advantage of you, you would be alright with that?”
She struggled trying to respond and never did truly answer the question. I was as perplexed with her ideology as she was with mine. What, or where, is the disconnect between us? How can it be that two women who both just want to make the world around us a better place, hold such opposing views?
The following day I received a Facebook message from another attendee who also had a problem with the headlines, particularly the one about human trafficking. She questioned what connection it has to Alberta separatism, except as a racist assumption about immigrants. Now there was a theme. Pointing out just a few of the facts regarding how our federal government manages immigration upset these women to the core. But why? The facts are the facts. How can they be denied? Then the a-ha moment came.
This is ‘white guilt’. There are some who believe that calling out the crimes of those who are not white is wrong. Furthermore, wanting justice for those who were hurt by them makes us racist, misogynist, colonialist, and so on. It is an ideology we have all heard and read about. Here I experienced it in real time.
For the record, Alberta Independence has absolutely nothing to do with race, skin color, or any other identifiable human trait. None of us care about any of that. This movement is about correcting the wrongs that have been done toward all Albertans for generations. Most of whom came as immigrants, many of whom really were discriminated against terribly when they arrived. Many of us are descendants of those immigrants. Yours truly is among them whose paternal side came here, narrowly missing the horrors of Holodomor (how apropos that we were at the Ukrainian Centre).
Standing up for generations of political wrongdoing against Albertans gets us accused of all sorts of things we are nowhere near guilty of. I am also constantly reminded that there will always be those for whom our message will never reach. And that’s okay.
Though I walked in to the Ukrainian Centre that night expecting the worst, I walked away pleasantly surprised. Despite this being an emotional topic, everyone was quite polite, most were attentive, and the passive aggressive jabs sent my way were at a much lower key than anticipated. To the gentleman who hosted it, I cannot commend him enough. In politics, opposites do not attract. Ever. Bringing us together in one room took remarkable courage, and for that I am very grateful.
Though no common ground was ever found that evening, the bridge wasn’t completely out. There was a small speck of agreement between the Unitarian minister and I. We both concur that this referendum really is the only way to ensure all of our voices are heard.